There are plenty of reasons why men don’t use sex toys alone or with their partners: bashfulness, the hassle of cleaning, and the fact that sex toys for men often look like deformed alien limbs—not something one wants near their most prized organ. But, above all, there seems to be this prevailing notion of “if ain’t broke, don’t fix it.” Masturbating (and sex) already feels great, so why mess with a good thing? Plus, if you subscribe to the Malcolm Gladwell 10,000-hour theory, many of us are already experts in the field. In terms of pleasure, in terms of harder, stronger, and more life-affirming orgasms, how much room for improvement could there really be?
We’re here to tell you that the answer is a lot. Forgoing toys during masturbation and sex is akin to not using all the crayons in one’s coloring box. Drawing a sunset with two colors is great, but it’s not going to turn out nearly as stunning as a drawing of a sunset that used a dozen different shades. Sex toys do things you and your partner cannot, no matter how limber you both are. No amount of meditation, fasting, or working out will enable your penis to vibrate on its own. You’re also going to struggle—by virtue of the limitations of the human anatomy—to stimulate your own prostate, aka the male G-spot, while simultaneously jerking yourself off. That’s where prostate massagers and vibrating butt plugs come in. When you hit that magical almond-sized organ just right, you’re going to wonder why you went years without paying your prostate any attention.
Even if you don’t think stimulating your prostate is something you’d like to explore, there are plenty of other toys out there that can up your sex and masturbation game from good to great—maybe even incredible. Here are the best sex toys for men out there.